Wednesday, June 2, 2021

Some Great words from A. P. J. Abdul Kalam

“Don't Read Success Stories You will get only message. Read failure stories. You will get some ideas to get success.”


When I read this quote of A. P. J. Abdul Kalam, it struck me in a very deep way. Besides being really true, it's a corrective to my habitual half-hearted attempts at a Norman Vincent Peale type of positive thinking as well as some of my reading habits.


When I did some research, I discovered a man who had as much a way with words as he did with applying both the scientific method as well as his Muslim faith to living a full and productive life.


Times of India Photo

I’ve assembled a collection of his quotes. I dedicate this to my young Muslim friends, Aqib and Mustafa, because they inspire me, and I am very grateful for their friendship. They are both young and starting out, so I will begin with this quote:


"Sometimes, it is better to bunk a class and enjoy with friends, because now, when I look back, marks never make me laugh, but memories do." 







"For a great man religion is a way of making friends; small people make religion a fighting tool."


"Dream is not that which you see while sleeping; it is something that does not let you sleep." 


"Dream, dream, dream. Dreams transform into thoughts and thoughts result in action."

"Knowledge without action is useless and irrelevant. Knowledge with action converts adversity into prosperity."


"Education gives you wings to fly. Achievement comes out of fire in our subconscious mind that ‘I will win."


“Failure will never overtake me if my definition to succeed is strong enough”.


"The world today is integrally connected through four rapid connectivities. They are the environment, people, economy, and ideas."


"A Leader must have a 'Vision' for an organisation, 'Passion' to work for achieving the goals, 'Curiosity' to travel an unexplored path and ‘Courage' to take decisions."


"When you speak, speak the truth; perform when you promise; discharge your trust... Withhold your hands from striking, and from taking that which is unlawful and bad."


"It is very easy to defeat someone, but it is very hard to win someone."


“Don’t take rest after your first victory because if you fail in the second, more lips are waiting to say that your first victory was just luck.”

“If you fail, never give up because FAIL means "First Attempt in Learning".

“If you want to shine like a sun, first, burn like the sun."

"All of us do not have equal talent. But, all of us have an equal opportunity to develop our talents."

"All Birds find shelter during the rain. But Eagle avoids rain by flying above the Clouds.”

“Excellence is a continuous process and not an accident.”

“Do we not realize that self-respect comes with self-reliance?”

 




What would Bapuji be Doing?

Originally posted on 23 April 2020. Today, June 2, 2021, we are still in state of lockdown here in India; I have revised and reposted it.


On Tuesday, 13 April 2021, I fasted. It was 397 days since the first Coronavirus Virus lockdown in India. It was also the first day of Ramadan. I am not Muslim, or even particularly religious, but I’d been asking myself what would Bapuji be doing during this pandemic, and my answer was very clear: he'd be fasting. 


Since the founding of their Republic, Indians have faced many challenges. Being true to the principles that created the largest democracy on the face of the earth, each generation has to reformulate an answer in the language and the circumstances of the present moment to this question: what would Bapuji do? This question is more than lip-service to the man whose compassion and courage inspire us. It is more than just a sound bite on the TV news to gain some political advantage. When facing the silent enemy of the Coronavirus, a life and death situation, our answer might determine whether we live or die. 


The threat of death and the economic destruction brought on by the virus is very different from the occupation of the British Raj. There is no enemy we can point to, no foreign army, no terrorist, no General Dyer, and also no malicious government conspiracy or incompetence. The victims of this virus are not defined by the language they speak, nor the clothes they wear, the clubs where they hang out, nor the religion they practice. The virus does not obey human laws or ordinary conventions. It is a force of nature.


And the threat is very grave. Many people are dying in the second wave. Crops are not harvested. Shops are closed again. Temples, mosques, shrines, churches, and gurudwaras, all are empty. The hospitals are turning sick people away because all the beds are taken. Doctors and nurses are being overworked, getting sick themselves and dying because they are caring for huge numbers of patients. But most Indians, some more willing than others, are following the advice of our leaders and health professionals and staying home, reducing the rate of infection.


But this comes at an enormous cost. Nerves are frayed. Families confined at home are seeing both the love that brought them together as well as the negative traits that they would normally tolerate. And yet, we have to do what we can because our survival depends on it. 


Of course it is far too early to begin to draw any lessons from this experience. But certain things are clear, and I think we should keep them in mind because we cannot really know how long this situation will last.

First we are all in this together. The virus does not discriminate between Hindu, Muslim, Sikh, Buddhist, Christian, or secularist. Our only defense is a united front. We will only succeed if we work together. We number about 135 crores and share a relatively small section of the earth’s surface. This is a difficult situation even under the best of circumstances.


Second, we have faced other crises in the past, and we have prevailed. People know how to work together facing impossible situations. We've realized that any struggle is hard work, but there is no way to avoid the pain that our human life presents us.


Third, Coronavirus is stealthy. It hides. In war, soldiers wear uniforms so that they know who they are fighting with and who are the enemies. The virus has robbed us of that luxury. It has no memory of past injustices. It does not hold grudges. It does not discriminate. To those who might say that the virus itself is God’s punishment for evil, I would just beg for humility in the face of calamity. Which one of us really knows the mind of God? It is perfectly understandable to try to blame someone else when facing an overwhelming fear. It is an instinctive reaction to lash out, and we think it helps. But the virus does not share our prejudices.


And fourth, there will be pain, and suffering, and loss. These are the facts of our lives now. There is no way to avoid it. 


When I first learned about Bapuji’s fasting, I was puzzled. It seems obvious that the way to fight an enemy is to use all the strength and power at our command. I thought he inflicted pain on himself to motivate others, perhaps even through guilt, to come to his way of thinking or unite against the British.


But perhaps it was the only thing he could do. There was no other defense. There was no power that he had to defeat the oppressor other than his inner strength. He nourished his soul by depriving his body. It was also his way of standing up to the suffering of life, accepting it willingly. 


I feel helpless in the face of the epidemic. I remain confident that the situation will improve, but I cannot predict when or how. In the meantime, I will do my best, and I will try to overcome my prejudice and work with everyone to defeat our faceless enemy. And I will fast.


Ken Ireland with Ankit Deshwal



Sunday, May 16, 2021

The Hoffman Process was birthed by TV sitcom “Bewitched”



Look no further!

Warning: this is a hit piece about Bob Hoffman and his “other-worldly” Psychic Process. None of my previous posts were “hit pieces” although that was the accusation. So
 I decided to write a real “hit piece” to demonstrate the meaning of the term and to prove that I can do that too, plus have some fun.

Hypothesis: the Hoffman Process, and Hoffman's late night meeting with the other-worldly Dr. Siegfried Fisher is really just a rerun of an episode of the TV sitcom “Bewitched.” Forget about your kindly psychic, or as he is being currently rebranded “gifted intuitive,” Hoffman was channeling Agnes Moorehead, wishing he could secretly, discreetly do the nasty with Dick York, while playing house with Elizabeth Montgomery as Samantha.

A bit of background might be helpful here: the Process was revealed to Hoffman when the ghost of his late therapist, Dr. Fisher, appeared at the foot of his bed in a late night apparition, told him about “Negative Love,” illogical logic and nonsensical sense, and took him through a loving divorce with mommy and daddy. Voila! Fisher-Hoffman Psychic Therapy.

“Bewitched” was a TV sitcom broadcast on ABC from September 17, 1964, to March 25, 1972. It aired on Thursdays at 9 PM. I’d bet real money that Hoffman never missed an episode, and the dates exactly coincide with the creation of Fisher-Hoffman Psychic Therapy. It has all the earmarks of Hoffman’s spirituality--homey, wacky contact with the supernatural world that solves our day-to-day conundrums. It is embarrassingly middle-class. Samantha and Endora could easily walk up to the All Powerful He/She Godhead in the Great Universal Mall when they visit the hairdresser. After the Obligatory Big Warm Unconditional Love Hug, they ask a pressing question about sex or love, and the psychic message blows them away.

There has to be some intermediary because, well, that’s the way the writers get a walk-on gig for a favorite Hollywood British uncle, Maurice Evans. Evans wasn't Leo G. Carroll. Cosmo Topper might have been a precedent for a gentleman psychic but no role model. “Topper” was a sitcom based on the 1937 film Topper, from two novels by Thorne Smith. It was broadcast on CBS from October 9, 1953, to July 15, 1955. But I’m sure that Carroll was not Hoffman’s cup of tea, psychic yes but far too sophisticated and upper class. Hoffman would have rather cultivated Endora (Agnes Moorehead) as a drag persona, funny, down-to-earth, a bit ordinary with run-on banter and big hair. Her daughter Samantha’s goal was to get married and lead a normal life, her supernatural powers appearing at inconvenient but important times. Plus she was entirely overdressed for the role.

But more than anything, I think “Bewitched” domesticates the supernatural world, making it as ordinary as a dinner party in a suburban, but definitely upscale tract house, not a lot of gaudy department store furniture but tasteful with some snazzy throw pillows brought back from Acapulco. Oh, and a few unexpected guests from the Spirit World who tell the truth by god and untangle a few pesky messes of human interactions--much like the esteemed psychologist Dr. Siegfried Fisher who appears out of the blue to give you, an ordinary housewife, oops tailor, a key piece of psychological wisdom that had been missed by all the great minds on the planet. It’s also a world in which gay life might even flourish if it were hidden, because you’re obviously very close to the ambi-sexual godhead, and drag lightens things up. Definitely Hoffman's brand of spirituality.

And, I think this is key, it's a world in which there are no ponderous academics or heavy thinkers. It’s populated and fueled by the rough and tumble world of commercial advertising, wooing clients, creating ad campaigns--very favorable to the unseen world. I’m thinking of a rather famous episode where Samantha doesn't want Darrin's client to use an ugly old witch in his ad campaign (Season 1, episode 7, “The Witches are Out”). Of course she wins and everyone makes money. Perfect denouement. All in all, Sol Saks must have been very happy with the revenue for 7 seasons, even if it was finished off short of the contracted 9. That’s a mistake that Hoffman won’t make with his international licensing scheme for Psychic Therapy.

Ridiculous right? Why do intelligent people believe nonsense?

Wham bang! There you go. That’s a hit piece.

 

Here is a link to my other writing about the Process.

© Kenneth Ireland, 2021

Wednesday, May 12, 2021

The End of Patriarchy and the Beginnings of a Cult

The old Tolman Hall UC Berkeley
I received an email from a Hoffman Process teacher about my last post, “Bob Hoffman, The First Encounter.” After noting that we hadn't spoken in perhaps 20 years, and acknowledging that indeed Bob Hoffman was a difficult guy and, by the way, sorry for the way he treated you, he then asked why I didn’t acknowledge that there are different people teaching the Process now? Why didn't I mention the “defense” of the parent? And why now did I write this “hit piece”?

I will answer this teacher’s questions in reverse order: why now did I write this “hit piece”? I have been writing about the Process for nearly 17 years. When the current owners of Hoffman’s “intellectual property” began to fashion a narrative about the Process that I felt conflated, confused and distorted some of the history, I meticulously researched and chronicled the early development of the Process in The Ontological Odd Couple, and the Origins of the Fisher-Hoffman Psychic Therapy which was published on July 31, 2004 and revised September 16, 2006. 12 other pieces followed, several critical of the Process, others talking about my experience of Hoffman and the Process, as well as my sexual abuse at the hands of Hoffman within 6 months after I finished the first 13 week Process, clearly a criminal offense. Nothing I wrote was a “hit piece.” I have been as honest and accurate as I can be about the facts and dates. I have carefully described the personal interactions as such and when I’ve stated an opinion, I’ve labeled it. If any of this does not match some other narrative, please present evidence to support the counter claim. Just labeling what I write “a hit piece” is not good enough. Ad hominem arguments are the bottom of the barrel.

Now to the “defense” of parents. I ended “The First Encounter” with a description of Hoffman’s unprofessional behavior with his students, patients--the people who signed up for the Process. I said that it was my opinion that it was borderline unethical and abusive. Hoffman claimed that he was “breaking down to build up.” I say he was acting out as a bully for whatever reason his own psychosis demanded, and it went unchallenged. I know I didn’t call him out and over 25 years I didn’t hear anyone really confront him despite an enormous amount of complaining behind his back. If you contradicted Hoffman, you would be considered unsuitable as a teacher or Process owner and that would cost you a career and money. I know several people who did try to confront him and were fired. He was a dictator who was also very interested in money. I stand by my assessment.

Our SAT group was the first and only Process that Hoffman did under the auspices of Claudio Naranjo, and, as I will show, it was incomplete. A lot has been said and written about Claudio’s assistance, most of that cast as approbation plus stamping it with the seal of legitimate psychotherapeutic practice. I cannot deny that Claudio did remain one of Hoffman’s supporters, and that he continued to see Hoffman as a kind of shamanistic healer through Hoffman’s death. I helped take care of Hoffman at the end of his life and remember Claudio’s visits well, but I want to review and question other claims.

I went back to what Claudio had written about the Hoffman Quadrinity Process in “The End of Patriarchy” to review his actual comments. I was an actor and participant in this history so it heightened my interest though it also colored it. Claudio describes his position as that of an ambassador between the intuitive world that gave birth to the Fisher-Hoffman Process and the world of scientific psychology, a role akin to that of John the Baptist. Leaving aside the preposterous messianic claims, he goes on to describe his involvement in the formation of Hoffman’s group process: “Reza Leah Landman led a group of about fifty people (with Bob present as silent witness) using the format of written guidelines. (I produced these guidelines at a time of rare inspiration, and when I visited Bob shortly afterwards, he interestingly commented, quite spontaneously, that Dr. Fischer had been with me.)”

This description is simply not accurate. I was in that group. Claudio was never present (perhaps briefly at the first session to introduce Hoffman. I can’t be certain, but he was definitely never present at any of the other sessions that followed). Bob Hoffman was not in any sense a silent witness. I have described the attitude of Hoffman in the group--after a few minutes of Reza Leah’s low key instructions, she invited Bob to take the floor and he did. I will also add that I am certain he hated the group process whether or not he told Claudio that Fisher had inspired the written guidelines. The pace was far too slow, and he had no patience for interpersonal work. The evidence I offer that it displeased Hoffman is that he ended the experiment before it was finished. After about three weeks into the prosecution of Mother, he announced that he and Claudio had agreed to end their work together, and that he would “take us through the defense of Mother” which would be an “OK” place to stop.

That occurred just after Thanksgiving. He also announced that he would be leading his own 13 week process beginning at the end of January in Tolman Hall, the facility of the UC Berkeley Psychology Department. He came up to me privately and suggested that I strongly consider taking part in that process. I remember our brief conversation very well. In my later therapy I recognized that this was the beginning of his predatory grooming.

The part he did feel had been “inspired” by Fisher was the physical, emotional, verbal, and I would add, necessarily violent expression of anger. It opened the possibility of a deep emotional catharsis after which the artificial process of understanding and forgiveness would foster a deep understanding that “everyone is guilty and no one to blame.” If our pain had been as great as we’d experienced in the Prosecution of Mother, her own pain had to be equally deep and debilitating.

The Defense Process entails envisioning your mother as a pre-adolescent child, telling her story. It is conducted in your sanctuary with your spirit guide as the interlocutor. Hoffman called these imagined scenarios “mind trips” and insisted that they were the channel for real information. You are instructed to ask questions about the origins of the Negative love traits and admonitions that you unwittingly inherited, one by one, leaving no stone unturned.

Of course in the real world, this is all “Best Guess,” or assumption, or hearsay, or fantasy or hallucination. If I were to be generous, it might be a “good enough” narrative to allow you to see that your parents suffered the same kind of programming that they passed on. The origins of the exercise were the psychic readings in the tailor shop on 15th street when Hoffman looked into your past and saw the incidents that excused your parents.

But I do not choose to be so generous. In my own case the narrative I created was so far fetched that it destroyed relationships with both my parents. I was actually led to believe that somehow I could get the root of my struggles with them. After I completed the Process, and the quirky working out of the loving divorce that Hoffman promised, I had so alienated my parents that they cut me off for nearly 20 years.

Of course this is not good psychological practice. That's a fact. It’s seeing a witch doctor. That's an opinion.

Claudio faults psychoanalyst Mauricio Knoble who observed in connection with No One is to Blame, “The traditional historical background was missing, as well as the scientific background, the theoretical foundation, the experimental data, the statistical validation, and the bibliography.” It’s a fair question to ask what he replaces it with. Claudio says [I] “hope that I may show that, while the ‘traditional historical background’ has not been known to Hoffman, his work is most congruent with it, as well as with the background of current psychological discourse.” My experience points to a less optimistic view of Hoffman’s methodology, one that skirts the necessary professionalism of psychological work.

The request that I take into consideration that a new cohort of Process teachers followed Hoffman and did not share his unorthodox, borderline practices leads into more New Age mire. The majority were people who came from the same mix who took the Process, members of the SAT groups, refugees from est and the work of Werner Erhard, sannyasins who had followed Osho in Antelope and Pune, and a few licensed mental health professionals. I will have more to say about this phenomena after I describe my experience of the first 13 week Process in Tolman Hall and the story of Hoffman’s stalking and abusing me, which by the way was a criminal action.

Here is a link to the description of "Tolman Hall, the first Hoffman Process. Hoffman the sexual predator grooms me."

Here is another link to my other writing about the Process.

© Kenneth Ireland, 2021